I assure you, I'm not being hostile or abusive. I just came here looking for people to share their experiences about which addon is the least memory-intensive, and I'm getting a lot of negativity back about people who tell me no, I don't really need that feature that I want or no, I shouldn't be looking to trim my memory usage. It's frustrating, and I think given that I'm being a picture of patience and politeness, simply reinforcing what I'm asking about. Repeatedly.
I'm sure the mods here are more than capable of letting me know if I've somehow gotten out of hand, but I think your perceptions are way, way off.
Regardless, this thread has derailed from actual information to what a terrible person I am for simply asking that people address my question instead of telling me that my parameters are moronic. I think I'll let this thread die and remember to find a different community in which to ask my questions in the future. Thanks VERY much to those who did post help!