since i posted i have tried to use
Een's Chat Window Backup, and also ran "/console synchronizeSettings 0" and still no matter what i try cannot get my chat settings to port between characters.
the chat settings are obviously getting saved on server. i can remove my entire WTF folder and my main will still load up with the previous tabs in the correct position. i suppose i will have to set up all 30+ alts one by one unless anyone can figure this out. please help